In a few hours I’m going to make a phone call and have a 15-20 minute conversation with my accountability partner. It’s the same type of phone call I’ve made daily for the past several months. It has the same purpose and same desired affects. It’s the perfect collaboration mastermind that brings us to our best self and I would not trade it for anything.
What is the conversation about?
Who is this conversation with?
I’ll get to all that in a minute. But first I want to give you some insights, revelations and what it means to have an accountability partner.
Do You Need An Accountability Partner?
- Do you ever wish you could get more done?
- Do you wonder what your plan of action is for meeting your goals?
- Do you self sabotage your goals by rearranging the same to do list over and over without taking action on it?
- Do you have limiting thoughts or beliefs creep up in your head and kill any productivity that was once there?
- Do you feel that you could accomplish more?
- Do you put off things that you know you should do?
- Do you wish you had someone to bounce ideas off of and brainstorm?
- Do I need to go on?
- When would NOW be a good time to start?
Some people have a great work ethic and can hold themselves accountable in just about any situation. But that’s just not everyone. In fact you may be surprised that this is not the case for most people. Sure we can all get things done on our own merit. We can finish our action items and feel good about them. But what I’m talking about has more to do with being our personal best than just finishing a to do list.
Now let me dispel a myth here real quick. Having an accountability partner doesn’t mean that your weak or can’t get your work done. It means that you want more for yourself. It means your surrendering your ego and allowing yourself to be held in check by someone else. It means you are allowing yourself to grow as a person and take a little more risk and effort to accomplish those things that are truly important to you.
Having an Accountability Partner increases Your Productivity
Now before you give me a “Duh I knew that” let me tell you what having an accountability partner has done for me.
- I have surrendered my ego.
- I have broken through a few comfort zones.
- I have stayed up late to finish an action item because i didn’t want to show up the next day empty handed.
- I have leveraged a sounding board that keeps me grounded while letting me bring my vision in to play.
- I have stepped more into my leadership by co-creating products with my accountability partner.
- I have accepted good enough instead of waiting for perfect to show up.
- And I have mirrored a few of these things back.
When you want to keep your word and follow through with a project you said you would do, then you will dig just a little deeper to finish it. Even if you have to stay up a little later than normal. You may have to stretch yourself to figure something out right now instead of putting it off. You may have to accept good enough instead of waiting for perfect.
Let that last one sink in a little and let me know if any of this hits home. I’ll even give you a place to leave your comments below this post.
How to Choose Your Accountability Partner
- Here are a couple of quick notes to take into thought when searching for an accountability partner.
- Someone who has the same or similar goals.
- Someone who is in the same field or niche.
- Someone who has the same or similar spirit or drive.
- Someone who understands and appreciates your goals.
- Someone who is not just a yes person.
- Someone who will be fair but firm.
- Someone who can call you on your crap.
Having an accountability partner who can understand what your trying to accomplish and can be that sounding board is vital to the success of that relationship. The fair but firm allows us to be pushed and called out on when we’re trying to just skate by. I mean think about it. If you really want to get the most out of yourself and be the best you can be don’t you think you need someone who can tell it like it is.
You need to have this trust and ground work laid out ahead of time, but let the process work and allow yourself to submit to it. I know this may be a challenge for those type “A” personalities, but I know you can get over it.
Ground Rules You and Your Accountability Partner Should Have
- This needs to be a safe place to share.
- Set a specific date and time.
- Form a commitment and stick to it.
- Follow through with action items.
- Dig deep to find out why you do things they way you do.
- Allow to give and take feedback.
- listen while the other person is sharing and pay attention.
- Respect each other and the process.
What ever rules you and your accountability partner establish make sure you both agree and understand what the bigger picture is. if you really want to bring out your best self you must be open to a little guidance. Know that the other person only has your best interest in mind.
Meet My Accountability Partner
Now comes the fun part where I get to introduce my accountability partner to you.
VaNessa Duplessie has been an entrepreneur her whole life. She is a wife, mother of two, coach and online marketer. VaNessa is also a commu
nity activist and fellow blogger.
In fact she also wrote a post about why you need an accountability partner.
What separates VaNessa from others is her passion to serve and support people in finding their passion and giving it a voice online as well as telling it like it is.
Her honest approach to her brand and online presence has capture the attention of many top marketers.
She has recently been added to the list of potential speakers at No Excuses 3.
If you could take 30 seconds and vote that would be great! She has
received over 100 votes in less than 4 days!
So do me a favor and vote now! Here’s the link again to No Excuses 3.
(voting is open until January 31, 2012.)
As promised there is a place below where you can share your thought about what it means to have an accountability partner. Have you ever had one? Do you have one now? Could you see the benefits of having one?
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P.S. Go check out Vanessa’s blog and tell her I said hi, and let her know that you heard she is a great accountability partner!