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Welcome to another edition of Mindset Monday. Today is an extra special day as it is a federal holiday here in the states and Canada. The first day of September is called Labor day and is a day where we honor working people.
A day of rest if you will, that also indicates the end of summer and the beginning of the school year.
I can hear all the excitement and rejoicing from mom’s everywhere!
Back to the subject at hand.
Last time we talked on Mindset Monday we covered the issue on how to handle limiting beliefs. Lots of great comments shared on that post.
Before we jump into today’s quick video I want to mention two things that I KNOW my business building buddies can appreciate.
1. You need to have a HUGE why if you really want to succeed online or offline! Most people start out with what they need. You’ve all heard this…I want to make $10,000 a month.” And of course setting your financial goals is one way to get started. But that’s it…a way to get started. This is where most people have more month at the end of their money and they want to change all that.
At some point the goal starts to shift to what others need and how you can help them. Especially if you are building a business where people are involved. In my opinion this is where it really should start, but lets face it…it’s not all unicorns and rainbows.
Somewhere between, I actually have more than enough to pay all my bills and it’s been at least 5 days since you’ve refreshed your genealogy list, you get a bigger vision. This is called…the cause.
The cause can be things like; retiring working moms AND dads, building wells in 3rd world countries, buying $2,000 worth of toys just to donate them to Salvation Army…every month.
2. This little thing called “The How” trips ups even the best of us at times. Yes we quickly moved from the why to the how. From the dream to the reality and boy does it bite.
The how is the first hurdle in building your online brand. It’s your first no..or your hundredth no. It’s what happens we you get your first unsubscribe or your first hate mail. It’s everything from putting all the pieces together and seeing them fall apart while you’re sitting their wondering what just happened.
The how is all the details that cause us the stimulation overwhelm experience.
Now what if I told you the how doesn’t really matter? I know all those things like auto responders and funnels need to be build, but hang with me for just a sec.We all know that “The Why” is much more important that “The How” but what if it’s even easier than that. What if it really comes down to our frame of reference?
See lots of people are looking for the fix to their situation and they struggle to find it. And then there’s lots of other people who know what to do but struggle to get it done.
Looking for the end result is not where it’s at.
We need to understand that the journey is the actually destination.
Lets pick up the video and then we’ll come back to wrap it up.
Every step you take in your business can be shared to help encourage others. Every time you have a win or a failure it can be used is supporting someone else.
The world doesn’t need any more “I have to know it all before I start” kind of people. The world needs YOU. We need you to step up and just get going. The destination is the very next step you take. Share it and let’s help the world discover who you are and the value to have to give.
Ken Pickard
The Network Dad
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This message is timely…man. I mean goodness am I one of those how people. It’s in my nature a lil’ more than most. I’m solutions driven so of course I gots ta know how to make it happen right? Eh, not so much. Lately I’ve made several moves without knowing how it would turn out. I’m working diligently to stay committed to my journey and not the end game. This post definitely aids my mindset on that one, so grazi Ken. Did you enjoy your long weekend?
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Mys,
That’s awesome to hear about your recent success in things where you didn’t know exactly how it was going to come about. I’m solutions oriented as well, so it ca be a bit tough to trust something or someone else in the beginning. But that’s just a fear, which is False Evidence Appearing Real.
There’s no reason why we need to stress of the how to when we should be focused on the journey and life lessons. Enjoy the process…embrace it and true riches can be yours.
Ken
Hi Ken,
I enjoy reading your articles because I have to step back and take a look at myself and what I am doing. I really like that “the journey is the actual destination” I need to remind myself of that and not work so hard.
Thanks for the Mindset Monday.
Suzanne
Suzanne,
Sounds like another “Ah Ha” moment to me. These are the ones to share for sure. There are plenty of “How to” stuff out there, and we will always make more of those. But that’s just the tip of the iceberg.
I’m glad you liked the Monday Mindset video. Thanks for your comment.
Ken
So.. right? If you’re just in business to pay the bills, you’ll never make it. Paying the bills doesn’t mean anything. There’s nothing to sweat and work hard for to do that. Sounds ironic I know, but entrepreneurs “get it”.
It’s the dream of MORE meaning in your life… whether that be traveling the world, giving your kids new experiences, feeding the hungry, helping girls get out of sex slavery, building the community center, sending your folks on a vacation of a lifetime.
These are the things that get you out of bed and get you motivated. The “how to” will follow once the “true motivation” is revealed and focused on.
When there’s a will there’s a way.
Great post and I always love your videos
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Debbie,
Thanks for stopping by and sharing your comment. Yes the drive for a better quality of live for others drives me as well. i always like to hear people talk about the bigger vision. To me this is the attraction factor. Anyone can build a business, but the masters share a vision. That culture of believe you can really make a difference drive the entrepreneur.
Ken
Hey Ken, Thanks for writing this. This message, though I’ve heard it so many times before, is finally getting through to me! Just to confirm that good messages can repeated over and over in different way from different people and personal perspectives. You never know who or when it just may click in for and help…and sharing our journey helps us ultimately.
Dela,
You and me both! Good messages are timeless and thank goodness there are many different ways we can same the same thing. this way many people get their own “Ah Ha” moments. It’s like that marketing law of 7…we have to see things 7 times before we buy. The same holds true for life lessons like this.
Ken
Hey Ken,I like your video about your daughter as an analogy to this post. When we are building a business we do have goals in mind, but there is a shift that happens. Like you said, the end point is NOT your destination.It is constant growth. I\\\’ve been an entrepreneur for most of my life and the journey is great. Also, we can always move forward. There is no end point for me because the journey twists and turns. It has often taken me to different places and total growth.Thanks Ken, I enjoyed this post and of course your video!Donna
Donna,
I’m glad you liked the post and video. Yes, sharing the topic of my daughter going back to college did give a compound affect to the moral of the video huh?
I’m always grateful to entrepreneurs who share their journey with others and who really understand what it means to be on that journey. those who are just looking for the end or who only have dollars signs in their eyes are missing out.
Ken
One thing I know for sure Ken is that in order to even reach that “end result” you have to go on the journey. I know that most people venturing into the online world soon realize all the obstacles there are but at the same time, all the really cool people they have an opportunity to meet along the way.
That’s when those aha moments kick in and they soon realize exactly what you’re saying, the journey is the destination.
Love your message today and I always enjoy your videos.
Sorry I missed you last night but will be back next week. Hope you enjoyed your Labor Day weekend. Have a great week.
~Adrienne
Adrienne,
Love those “Ah Ha” moments. And those are powerful nuggets to share aren’t they? Plus the attraction factor kicks in when we share our journey and life lessons.
We missed you for the Tribe Tuesday, but looking forward to next week. My memorial was restful as we came back from my grandfather memorial service. It was a tough, but good at the same time. Thanks for asking.
Ken
Hi Ken,
Excellent post. I am 100% with you on that. The WHY is way, way more important than the how. As a matter of fact, I teach my clients that in many cases they do not need to know how, they only need to what. Once you know what you want and why, just ask for it and if you do it correctly, the how will be brought about to you.
For example, if you want to ask for a certain amount of money, do not narrow your possibilities down by asking exactly how you want to achieve that, let Higher Intelligence decide it for you. It works so, so much better that way.
Thanks for this super info
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Sylviane,
You’re right on the money. We don’t really need to worry about the how to much. When people focus on this they easily loose sight of their main objection. I heard someone use the information suck zone analogy. Agree to do it…what ever it it, just do it. Then find that one piece of information you need to complete it. Put the blinders on for everything else.
The challenge with this is there is way to much distraction for most people. But the winners will overcome this small issues. I like what you said about letting the higher intelligence decode for you. That’s tapping into our best self now isn’t it?
Ken
Hi Ken
Thank you so much for sharing this and I loved the analogy in your video about your daughter going away to school. It really brought the whole concept to life.
I partilcularly like your comment to Debbie, that anyone can build a business, but only masters share a vision. That is so true. People like Steve Jobs or Richard Branson are visionaries, and so much bigger than the sum total of their businesses.
Yoga teaches the art of living in the present and that allows you to enjoy every moment of the journey you are travelling on. I have lots of dreams and goals and I am slowly ticking them off my list as I travel my journey. Although my dreams are big, I don’t have an end destination in mind, just like your dauhter arriving at school is not going to be her end destination. In fact it is only the beginning of her journey.
Louise
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Louise,
I’m glad you liked the video. Nothing like sharing little life lessons. I’ve always tried to help my kids navigate adolescence and early adulthood with these concepts of “life lessons” instead of “I told you so.”
As far as business goes, I’m also much more attracted to a vision that the simple “how to” now a days and I think that holds true for most. Even when we ask how to do this or do that, we really want someone to lead us. And that takes a vision.
I’m so glad to hear that you are crossing off your dreams and goes and enjoying those moments of the journey. I also think this process helps us be less anxious as well.
Ken
Hi Ken
Oh yes the journey is definitely the destination! I remember for many years doing personal development courses thinking somehow I would “arrive” at a place and be perfect (what ever that looks like).
I think John Lennon said it well “life is what happens to us while we are busy making other plans” – it is about the journey.
I totally agree with you that the why is important and not the how. I know when I used to work for material goals I would reach one and then it would be “well what now”. It has to be about the why.
Love your video and love the post Ken.
Sue
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Sue,
Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I love that quote. “life is what happens to us while we are busy making other plans” And how true that is.
I’ve heard this analogy of the why vs the how in several courses and it sometimes takes a while to sink in. especially since I’m one of those people who usually need to know all the answers before I start something. But I’ve told myself that it will be much more freeing to discover the reality through the action steps of the process.
This allows me to be much more focuses, results orientated while having fun at the same time….who knew?!
Ken
Find your Why and hold it fear. This emotion will drive you through all types of resistance, which will pop up as you grow. Make your Why pulsating. Freedom is a biggie for most. Simply dwell on the feeling, the reason why you wish to do what you do, and you will never quit doing.
Your Why almost always shifts from something like money, or other tangible objects, to something bigger than you…namely, helping others. This shift happens naturally as you focus exclusively on serving others. You look out for you less and look out for others more. All because of the subtle then powerful shift which occurs after working diligently on helping people for months and then years.
Thanks for sharing your spot on insight Ken!
RB
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Hi ken this is the first time I’ve been on your site. This post is very thought provoking. When yous tart thinking about the journey being the destination you start to change the way you look at things and can put this into all sorts of scenarios. For instance take someone who wants to sail around the world. The journey around the world is the product of probably years of preparation. So the preparation is the journey and the journey is the destination. I am starting to get this.
Great post look forward to reading another one thanks lee